In my quest to empower clients and community members to embrace healthy pleasure, I’ve collected a variety of materials - some that are more functional, and some that are just fun! Here you will find learning resources, toy websites, erotica platforms, and more.

Learning Resources

• My primer on Kink/BDSM

• OMGyes.com - a centralized resource on female pleasure

• Sensate Focus - a sensual exercise developed by Masters and Johnson

• The Gottman Institute - tools, research, and materials for cultivating healthy long-term relationships

• Pleasure For The Masses YouTube Channel

• LA Sex Therapy Collective Blog

  • My piece ”Purity Culture: Untangling the Thread of Shame and Rape Culture” on the LAST blog

• Somatica Institute Blog

• “How To Do It” - Slate’s sex advice column
  

Toy Sites

• Lovense - interactive and app-enabled toys

• Lioness - data-driven smart toys

• The Pelvic People - women-engineered toys built with pelvic pain and vaginismus in mind

• The Pleasure Chest

• Eden Fantasys

• Adam and Eve

• Saturday Box (kinky role-play scenario kits)

Erotic Exploration

Whether you’re listening, watching, or reading, erotic content can be a great way to explore your interests, expand your horizons, or just elevate your pleasure - with or without a partner!

Audio

• Dipsea

• Quinn app

• Femtasy

The Written Word

Be it romance novels or transformative fan works, many people (especially women ) enjoy reading our erotic content. Here are a few romance authors and sites I recommend:

• Abigail Barnette

  • The Boss series - Barnett read 50 Shades of Gray and took it as a personal challenge to write a billionaire romance that didn’t break all the fundamental safety and consent rules of BDSM. The Boss is a feminist, kinky billionaire romance series that is sexy, safe, sane, and consensual.

• Bec McMaster

  • London Steampunk series

• Archive of our Own- AO3 is the leading home for transformative works (fan fiction) online. It also has a robust tagging system so you can search for any type of content your nerdy little heart desires - of any rating, any pairing, and any genre

• LitErotica - an old school repository of sexy stories and audio

Video

Pornhub and RedTube have been the big players in erotic video for decades, but if you want a change of pace from mainstream content, check out this SheKnows.com collection of feminist erotica creators and platforms (including icon Erika Lust) that provides a great starting point for exploring video in that genre! Afterglow is an ethical, femme-centric video site that focuses on spicy education.