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      <image:caption>I always use the traffic light system with new partners. If I’m dommeing/topping, I frequently check in by asking “How’s this?” or “What’s your color?” - if my partner says “green,” I know our activity is within our negotiated boundaries and can continue. “Yellow” makes me pause to check in with more detail - Is the flogger hitting too hard? Do you need a moment to breathe or drink water? Once you’re both on the same page about what your sub needs, they can make the call whether they want to continue or stop. “Red” functions the same as a safeword - this doesn’t call for just a pause, it indicates we need to stop what we’re doing and transition to aftercare.</image:caption>
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      <image:caption>In order to engage in a scene or a dynamic (or in a sexual encounter), you have to establish consent!</image:caption>
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